I have already vaguely told Annie, age 3, that she is gifted. Your description of level 5 easily fits her, and her tested IQ is above 150. I've told her that her brain works fast, and that I want her to feel happy and fulfilled. I told her I don't believe career is important, apart from her interest and fulfilment. Needless to say I'm INFP. People (like me at least) spend a lifetime trying to understand ourselves. Why not help someone along.
I’m currently UNTP, I am a homebody, am energized by being with people, and am then totally depleted by being with people. That’s what the U means. Age 3 is too early to get an accurate IQ result. This may turn out to be accurate, but you should test again and at 6 or 7. That will be enough. After that, unless your child has a head injury, there’s no good reason to keep testing.
When I told on of my children more about what the scores meant, when the child was not quite 7 and had asked directly for the recent testing results, I told that child and also shared context. I also t said that there are other people who have scored lower, and other people who have scored higher. The child thought a moment and said, “Well, there is such a thing as measurement error.” In my two 5 Levels books, there is a Level Five subject named by pseudonym as Ross Oliver. Find him and read his whole story. In my dissertation, the number of people who were never told their IQ results is very high. And it was disastrous for most of them, at least in their own minds. Gifted children and adults, especially intuitives, it seems, need to know. But, like the sex talk, not all parents are good at it. That’s where I try to help. I would say you should learn more about testing by going through my posts that have IQ or testing in the titles. Then, when your daughter is about 6 or 7, talk to her about what it does and doesn’t mean. This advice is just for you. For anyone else reading this, without context, I can just say, “It depends.”
Hi Deborah, I've read that ENTPs can be considered the introverted extroverts. They are so intuitive, noticing so much under the surface, that social interaction can be draining for them. Not to mention most people are sensors, and sensor interaction can be draining for intuitives haha.
Thanks for your advice about Annie. Totally fascinated and excited to read your books and all your works.
I needed her tested early as a way to communicate with schools, because she was set to be one of the eldest in her year group.
I hadn't seen that about ENTPs but see it describes me to a "T." It can be so draining to constantly see and understand so much and then be stuck with how to share it or deal with it. And there is a series of mine coming out on Gifted Through the Lifespan about early entrance and grade skipping.
We told our kid without using the term gifted. We just told him that he might learn things quicker than other kids his age and so he needs to try to be patient for kids at school if it takes them longer. We also told him that there are going to be things that are going to be more challenging for him than other kids his age (for him it is sports) and that’s ok. He’s perfectionist and this was hard to learn to be ok with. He also hated art because it wouldn’t look as good as what he had in his mind. When he started to dumb himself down to fit in at school we had to tell him that he needs to advocate for himself and ask for more challenging work instead. So I guess we are allll about the neurotype and want him to understand himself but we aren’t really in to the label and the stigma and expectations it can bring.
Hi Deborah, I would love to know your mbti type?!
I have already vaguely told Annie, age 3, that she is gifted. Your description of level 5 easily fits her, and her tested IQ is above 150. I've told her that her brain works fast, and that I want her to feel happy and fulfilled. I told her I don't believe career is important, apart from her interest and fulfilment. Needless to say I'm INFP. People (like me at least) spend a lifetime trying to understand ourselves. Why not help someone along.
I’m currently UNTP, I am a homebody, am energized by being with people, and am then totally depleted by being with people. That’s what the U means. Age 3 is too early to get an accurate IQ result. This may turn out to be accurate, but you should test again and at 6 or 7. That will be enough. After that, unless your child has a head injury, there’s no good reason to keep testing.
When I told on of my children more about what the scores meant, when the child was not quite 7 and had asked directly for the recent testing results, I told that child and also shared context. I also t said that there are other people who have scored lower, and other people who have scored higher. The child thought a moment and said, “Well, there is such a thing as measurement error.” In my two 5 Levels books, there is a Level Five subject named by pseudonym as Ross Oliver. Find him and read his whole story. In my dissertation, the number of people who were never told their IQ results is very high. And it was disastrous for most of them, at least in their own minds. Gifted children and adults, especially intuitives, it seems, need to know. But, like the sex talk, not all parents are good at it. That’s where I try to help. I would say you should learn more about testing by going through my posts that have IQ or testing in the titles. Then, when your daughter is about 6 or 7, talk to her about what it does and doesn’t mean. This advice is just for you. For anyone else reading this, without context, I can just say, “It depends.”
Hi Deborah, I've read that ENTPs can be considered the introverted extroverts. They are so intuitive, noticing so much under the surface, that social interaction can be draining for them. Not to mention most people are sensors, and sensor interaction can be draining for intuitives haha.
Thanks for your advice about Annie. Totally fascinated and excited to read your books and all your works.
I needed her tested early as a way to communicate with schools, because she was set to be one of the eldest in her year group.
I hadn't seen that about ENTPs but see it describes me to a "T." It can be so draining to constantly see and understand so much and then be stuck with how to share it or deal with it. And there is a series of mine coming out on Gifted Through the Lifespan about early entrance and grade skipping.
We told our kid without using the term gifted. We just told him that he might learn things quicker than other kids his age and so he needs to try to be patient for kids at school if it takes them longer. We also told him that there are going to be things that are going to be more challenging for him than other kids his age (for him it is sports) and that’s ok. He’s perfectionist and this was hard to learn to be ok with. He also hated art because it wouldn’t look as good as what he had in his mind. When he started to dumb himself down to fit in at school we had to tell him that he needs to advocate for himself and ask for more challenging work instead. So I guess we are allll about the neurotype and want him to understand himself but we aren’t really in to the label and the stigma and expectations it can bring.